Self Knowledge is the first step to enlightenment.
How are you suppose to change your bad habits if you aren’t unaware of them?
I didn’t allow myself to fix the exterior until the interior was in order
I’ve always been fairly self-aware. I’m not the one to deny any of my flaws.
The problem for me is fixing the habit. I just want to wake up the next day a brand new person. I get frustrated with myself and others if things don’t go the way that I envision it in my mind. It took me years and years to finally come to terms with the fact that I had to really put in work and effort to change my old habits. I had “fake the funk” (a saying my uncle likes a say) until things started to change naturally.
Bad Attitudes and Tempers
I mean every girl has one sometimes, right? Apparently, mine is the worst one out there. I would raise my voice and respond without listening. I understand now, that it’s very rude and unattractive. My temper was something that needed work. I feel so much better when I am able to communicate my feelings calmly, without getting so worked up. I like being rational and thinking before I speak. I’ll probably have a break down in a few weeks…who knows, I’m not perfect. The positive part is, the good days are outweighing the bad, and it feels like growth.
Coming to terms with my problem was indeed the first step. Practicing yoga, listening to soul healing affirmations daily, staying present, making the conscious effort not to judge others, and not stressing over things I can’t change. Let’s be real, a bad attitude is toxic. as. fuck. No one wants to be around someone who is always negative, unhappy and constantly bringing down the energy. I wasn’t that bad, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t have room for improvement.
Stop being a negative freaking nancy! My mind would always think the worst in every situation. I hated going out because someone could get shot or get in a car accident. What’s crazy is, I really thought that I was just being real and prepared for the worst. My mind ALWAYS went to the worst possible scenario. Now, I have practiced patience, positive self-talk, positive thinking and the law of attraction(positive living). I speak, think, and envision positive things in my life constantly. Be careful, you can attract negative energy and events into your life.
I get so anxious, my body literally shakes. It felt like I was sitting on top of ice, inside of a freezer. That’s how intense my body will shake. I hated going out, going to parties, or huge crowds because…anxiety. I hated getting anxious while out because then the “anxiety shakes” would come. It started out small and I never really got a grasp on it, so it spiraled.
Whenever I get the “shakes” now, I have found deep breathing to help calm them a lot faster. My heart rate usually starts to slow first, if I focus on my breathing hard enough, I’ll lose the shakes and not even realize it. If you’re in a safe place to do yoga… stretching always helps to break up my tension and almost instantly stops my shaking.
(self-knowl·edge) – understanding of oneself or one’s own motives or character.
The key to kicking these habits was having knowledge of myself, of my flaws, and my personal “demons”. I admit I was the most anxious, pessimistic, loud mouth ever. I have grown so much. A lot of people fear to be like their parents. Who doesn’t cringe at their negative traits from their parents? It’s inevitable! Especially when that’s what you grew up watching and mimicking your whole life. Have no fear, you can change!
When you can be real enough to acknowledge your downfalls, then you can begin to transform your life. Fix the interior by fixing your heart and how you think. My mind was my biggest demon. It was programmed to think negative. In a previous post, I said: “Diet isn’t only through food”. It really isn’t; it’s your world, it’s what you allow in your space, your music, your thoughts, your friends, your tv shows, your workplace, your heart, your peace. Love yourself enough to know who and what to allow in your space. Protect your peace at all cost.
10 TIPS TO KICK A BAD HABIT
- Come to terms with the problem
- Be patient
- Work hard
- Put in effort
- Think positive
- Daily Affirmation: I am calm, peaceful, and loving.
- I love who I am. I am grateful to be alive and growing.
- Love yourself.
Are you practicing self-love daily? Share your favorite self-love tasks below.
peace & light,